The Word ‘Pussy’: Why Men Shouldn’t Be Able To Say It Anymore

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I love to say the word PUSSY.

I adore the way it feels when it flies out of my mouth. Its feels like a million glorious starbursts erupting off my tongue and brightening up the sweet, sweet air.

PUSSY. PUSSY. PUSSY.

I also happen to love everything about the pussy. I mean, how can you not wildly respect it? We exist because of the pussy, so how dare we ever disrespect it?

I say pussy a lot, and it pisses my mother off. She thinks its a rude word and thinks we should use the proper terminology for our sacred sexual body parts.She thinks we should say vagina and penis, never pussy or dick.

I used to agree with her, but that was the past. Now, I really enjoy twisting my lips around the word pussy because it empowers me.

When I was a teenager living in conservative Connecticut, boys always said the word pussy. But the boys never said it in a positive way, like I love and respect the power of the pussy, Im so grateful to be alive because of the power of the pussy.

No.They used the word pussy as a way to say something was lame, weak or stupid.

Stop being such a PUSSY, dude! a stupid, preppy boy (who probably moved his bleak life back to Connecticut and overly controlshis disempowered wife who doesnt realize she deserves SO MUCH BETTER) would say to another boy when he didnt want to take a tequila shot, do a bump of coke, or try one of the otherequally destructive and expensive things the stupid, preppy boys in my over-privileged school liked to do.

My whole life, I always heard men use the word pussy in this way. It made me hate the word.

In fact, as a passionate 14-year-old discovering feminism for the first time, I vowed to never say the word again.

After all, a vaginais a beautiful thing. And the culture made me feel like pussy was a vulgar way to describe such an important life force, and I wouldnt dare do such a thing, right?

But then, when I was 16, I discovered this amazing, queer, feminist girl band called Bitch & Animal and heard thesong The Pussy Manifesto.

In the manifesto/song, they start using the word pussy as a compliment. And that, my darlings, was the first time I was ever introduced to the power of reclaiming words.

Im sick of my genitalia being used as an insult. Are you?
Its time to let my labia rip and rearrange this.

Here we go:
That was so Pussy of you to help me move to my new place!
Especially since Im living on the 13th floor.
Youve really made this a Pussy move!

That song changed my life.

I really discovered why controlling, narrow-minded people ban art and music. Its because it truly has the ability to reshape the way an entire generation thinks and feels.

After listening to that song, 17-year-old Zara, in her ripped fishnet stockings, her silver eyebrow ring and vegan leather jacket, decided she was never, ever going to let her genitalia be used as an insult again.

And I started to use the word pussy in all its reigning glory.

If I heard somefuckboy use the word negatively, I would chime in,Oh, so you just called that boy a pussy. You must mean it was really awesome of him to have lost that basketball game, huh?

The fuckboywould look at me blankly, and I would gaze right back, sweetly batting my large-and-in-charge eyelashes. Well, the word pussy is a compliment because pussies are amazing things. They give and receive endless pleasure and bring fucking life to the world, Id purr.

The fuckboy would never know how to respond to my radical statement, so he would usually just slink away as I leaned back and smiled feeling likeI had totally reclaimed the word and was in control of my life. It was epic.

So as you can tell, Ive fully reclaimed pussy. And I hope that all girls have reclaimed it, too.Its so liberating to take back that word. It makes me feel like I could sing opera right out of my pussy.

But you know who Im not cool with reclaiming pussy? MEN.

Yes, boys, Im fully aware that I just lectured you on your use of the word. And now, Im telling you you cant use it at all. But hear me out: Im not here to man hate; Im here to educate.

Even when men say pussy in a positive way (which is rare),it makes my skin crawl.

Unless you have (or have had) a pussy and experienced the very specific hurt of having your precious, sacred genitalia be used as ahateful way to describe something weak, you dont know how painful and degrading hearing it feels.

And its simply not your word to reclaim.

Thats the way it works withany slur or bigoted word: Only people who have been affected by the word can reclaim it.

I can say the word dyke because I am a dykeand have been called a dyke by bullies since the seventhgrade. It feels good to take the freaking power back.

But if youre straight, youve never felt the oppressing pain of having something youre proud of (like your sexuality) be used in a way to putyou down.

You dont get the privilege of using that word as a means of empowerment because youve never been disempowered by it. Make sense?

So girls, lez all get down with the pussy. After all, the pussy is a gorgeous thing.

Its so pussy that you clicked into my article and are reading it right now. Its so pussy that its officially going to be fall soon, and the leaves will be changing colors. Its so pussy that you have a pussy that lets you feel so much pleasure, girl.

And to the boys: If you respect and love the pussy as much as I do, you need to be formal and call it a vagina.Its sort of like calling your elders maam or sir. Its a respect thing.

So girls, welcome to Planet Pussy. Its great over here.

Boys, well come visit you in Vagina Land, when (and if) we feel like it.

Otherwise,stay in your zone. Dont come bounding into ours, because youre not welcome right now.And its rude to venture into an area where you arent welcome. Every real gentleman knows that.

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