How Being Alone Served As A Unique Therapy For My Depression
We live in a world of constant interactions, whether its in person or online.
We have the ability to communicate with people all over the world at the press of a button. And it seems were constantly strivingfor more likes on a photo and more comments on our political posts.
With so much reliance on interactions with other people, where has the appreciation of being alone gone?
Sometimes, we avoid going out alone infear beingjudged or looking lonely. Our perception of ourselves is impacted tremendouslyby others perceptions of us.
Doing things alone can feelso invigorating. It gives us the opportunity to focus onour thoughts and feelings. When you do things alone, you become a stronger person because you rely lesson other people for your own happiness.
Has there been a movie youve been dying to see? Or is therea new coffee shop down the street youve been wanting to check out?
Dont wait for a companion. Discover the world for yourself.
A few years ago, my brother passed away, and no matter how many people reached out and sentme their condolences, Id never felt more alone. I felt lost and out of touch with myself.
Before I let my depression wash over me, I realized it was time to start taking care of me.
I needed to reevaluate everything Id ever believed growing up. My brothers death was a way for me to look at my own perspective on the world I was living in.
And deciding to be on my own was the best decision Id ever made.
Id never felt more at peace with myself than I did over the next few years. I began doing things that made me happy because I needed it, rather than waiting to do it with somebody else.
Taking a drive to the beach alone to watch the sunset stopped seeming so scary. I saw movies alone. I went to art shows alone. It was strangely soothing and exhilarating.
I learned more about who I was as a person when I was alone more than I had in my past 19 years on this earth.
If youre like me, youll find youre much more open-minded and willing to look at the world differently when youre by yourself.
On the weekends, Im constantly looking for new art shows to go to, new movies to see and new restaurants to have lunch at. There are a lot of people I could call up to join me, but sometimes, I just need that alone time.
Being on my own allowsme to guide my ownview of the world. I have no fear of voicingan opinion, offending someone or having a disagreement. The only opinion that matters is my own.
Im sure youve heard the saying, You cant be happy with someone until you can be happy on your own. And while I agree with this 100 percent, why should being happy on our own be the building blocks for beinghappy with someone else?
Just be happy on your own. Dont use it as a crutch to make yourself ready for a relationship.
When I do things on my own, Im not hoping tomeet someone or make myself look strong. Im doing it because its truly what I want and need to be doing at that time.
Lose the fear of being judged by others and stop caring what people think.
If someone thinks you look lonely, theyll come talk to you, if anything, and youll make a new friend. If they think you look pathetic, who cares? Youre never going to see them again.
Doing things for yourself is a key component to being truly happy in life. It doesnt make you a loner, and it doesnt mean you have no friends. It means you put yourself first. You care about yourself and your own mental health.
Collect your own thoughts. Form your own opinions. Discover your own likes and dislikes.
Being alive is a blessing. Cherish it and take advantage of every breath you take dont wait for someone else to do it with.
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