5 Ways To Play Hard To Get That Will Actually Work
Playing hard to get may seem pointless, but it’s not. When done correctly, it gives the relationship a bit of extra excitement.
The problem with playing hard to get is that it backfires sometimes. Whoever was playing hard to get was playing wrong,playing too hard to get. It’s a fine,fuzzy line.
Everyone has different limits, expectations and definitions of love. When you play hard to get, take into account the other person. After all, you are interested in them, no?
You’re going to want to play the game carefully. Remember, as much as this is for you, it’s also for your crush. Here’s how to do it effectively.
1. Give the attention he or sheneeds, but not the attention he or shewants.
Just as people have limits as far as how much they can handle, they also have minimums as far as how little they’re willing to accept.You have to get into your crush’shead tofigure out how much attentionis too much.
When does it cross over? When your crushno longer feels like he or sheneeds to work for your attention. Not that your crushought to be constantly working for your attention, buthe or sheneeds to be giving a little bit.
And be careful about notgiving your crushenough attention — if he or she doesn’t feel that you care, he or she willcall it quits.
2. Make your crushwork for it, but don’t forget to put in some effort yourself.
You want the person you’re dating to always be making an effort.
This isn’t to say your crush must always be on his or her toes, always making sure to give you attention and feeling like they’re always putting in an enormous amount of effort. That’s exhausting. But you do want him or herto feel like he or she shouldalways makean effort. You want your crushto want to alwaysmakean effort.
Playing hard to get is a game, one played by two people. You want the otherpersonto work for you, just as you want him or herto make youwork for him or her.
Nothing extreme, of course, just a nice bit of tension to keep things exciting. You have to realize making someone want to work to get you is synonymous with making him or herwant you.
3. Make him or herwait for sex.
Yes, you have a penis and/or a vagina, and you know how to use it. Good for you. That in itself isn’t enough to tell you it’s time to get your freak on. Sex is wonderful, but as all wonderful things, it becomes more wonderful when we have time to let the anticipation grow.
Again, you don’t want to wait too long because anticipation can kill you. Or, at the very least, kill the relationship. If you haven’t had sex yet, then giving it some time — time to get to know each other on a deeper level — will make the sex that much better.
If you’ve been having sex, don’t make itpart of the routine. Sex shouldn’t be routine. It should be spontaneous. Routines, no matter what they consist of, inevitably become boring.
4. Open the window, but don’t let him or her jumpthrough.
You should always be careful with whom you let in. Not all people deserve togetto know you on an intimate level.
Instead of laying your hand on the table, show your crushone card at a time. Pull back the curtains, even open the window, but don’t let him or her leapuntil it’s time.
Think about it this way: If your goal is to find someone to spend your life with, then you should approach each relationship as if it has the potential to become what you’re looking for (if it doesn’t have the potential of becoming what you want it to become, then you shouldn’t be in the relationship in the first place).
And considering you have a lifetime, take your time. Get to know each other slowly. Don’t rush this process, because it’s more fun not to.
5. Give him or heraffection, but always take your space.
Relationships are often disappointing because peoplein the relationship areaiming for something impossible.
I know that you want the two of you to become one, but that will never actually happen. You two will always be separate individuals. Solet this personbe themselves, and let you be you. Do your own things, and then do the rest together.
The beauty of spending time apart is that it regularly reminds you how important the other person is to you. It allows you to miss this person.
The truth is that you can’t miss someone who’salways there — and you want this personto miss you. Spend enough time apart to ensure the time you have together is as exciting, intense and magical as it should be.